Mother’s Day Musings

Sunday is Mother’s Day. Advertisements for Mother’s Day gifts are peppering my social media feeds and filling up the inboxes of my email. I have a feeling of loss as I read the ads, as I am sure so many others do because our mothers are no longer with us.

It is another holiday celebrated, but which brings mixed feelings for many mothers and children out there. This year I will admit, holidays have been hard for me. Life is very different than I expected it would be. I do not know why we have this fairy tale idea of life, because in reality, life is messy. Relationships are messy, especially with families. It isn’t always a Hallmark moment. That is what makes Mother’s Day and families so special because they persevere together through the muck of life, held together by love, even though it isn’t always front and center but hidden, ready to come out at unexpected moments

In the 52 years, I had my mother,  I never missed a Mother’s Day with my mother. I might not always have been able to spend the entire day but I always made sure I visited her at some point in the day. I always made sure I gave her a gift whether it, large or small. It wasn’t a chore, it was something from the heart I wanted to do. We didn’t always have a great relationship and didn’t communicate things to each other in a positive way but the love never died.  I miss spending Mother’s Day with my mother.

I think my parents taught me Mother’s Day was a day to take the time to spend with the person who loved me and raised me. My dad, my mom and I always visited my dad’s mom on Mother’s Day. She only lived until I was six but that is one thing I remember. My mom’s mom lived with us, but my mom always made it a special day for her and my dad made sure we did that for my mom too. It was a celebration. It was a day for families to take time to be together.

It is 2019 and families are spread out far and wide. Many moms will spend the day alone because of various reasons. I will be one of those. Life is busy for families and getting together isn’t always an option. Some will be spending Mother’s Day alone because children and parents have been separated because of strife and disagreements. And so this holiday might be one of those that some want to pass over and not acknowledge it is happening.

I would give anything to spend another Mother’s Day with my mom and my mom-in-law, Dorothy. I am sure there are moms who have lost a child that would give anything to see them again on Mother’s Day.

It isn’t the presents, mothers want on this day, but the presence of their children in their lives, whether it be a phone call every week or a visit. The love of a mother never goes away.

I will visit my mother this Sunday at her grave. And then I might take myself to a movie and laugh a little. I will celebrate being a mother because I have three successful, healthy children. So if you are alone on this day, treat yourself. Take time to remember those who are no longer with us and then take the time to celebrate you because you deserve it.

Happy Mother’s Day, mom.

 

 

There’s A Day For Everything!

Something About Nothing by Julie Seedorf posted in Albert Lea Tribune and Courier Sentinel week of November 17, 2014

Today is World Peace Day. Yesterday was United Nations International Day for Tolerance and National Fast Food Day.kindness day

We all know that for us every day is a special day in our lives because it is different from the day before. I hadn’t thought much about the days that people have named for us to celebrate until I picked up one of my AARP newsletters.

There are the days that we all remember: Christmas Day, New Year’s Day, Martin Luther King Jr. Day, Valentine’s Day, Easter Sunday, Grandparents Day, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, but I hadn’t realized how many special days there are until I picked up that magazine.

According to my AARP magazine these are the special days for the month of November:

November is National Family Caregivers Month. Nov. 11 is Veterans Day, Nov. 13 is Embrace World Kindness Day. Nov. 23 kicks off National Game and Puzzle Week, and the 26th kicks off National Deal Week. Nov. 27 we celebrate Thanksgiving Day, and then we move on to the 29th and Small Business Saturday and on the 30th Senior Sunday.

The two I mentioned when I started this column are not mentioned in the AARP magazine but are two I found on investigating days celebrated.

Since the month is half over and you might have missed celebrating some of the days I have mentioned, here are some days for you to celebrate the rest of the month: Nov. 18 is National Adoption Week, Nov. 20 is Name your PC Day, Nov. 21 is World Hello Day,  Nov. 22 is Stop the Violence Day. Here’s one I have no idea what it is and that is on Nov. 23, and it is National Sinkie Day. I would like to give credit for finding some of these to Jill Badonsky, writer of “The Awe-manac: A Daily Dose of Wonder.”

I have a feeling that if we wanted to name a day and we could get the world to catch on through social media, we could add another day to the November calendar to celebrate.

There may be days when you wake up in the morning and feel kind of blah and you feel you have nothing to celebrate. I am telling you that there is always a day to celebrate. If you look hard enough, you will find one.

Remember, there is also your birthday. I had a friend who never liked to celebrate his birthday because he didn’t like to think about his age. I always told him that celebrating his age was better than the alternative. The alternative happened, and I would guess he would tell you to celebrate your life on your special day.  You can celebrate your life each day just because we wake up in the morning.

I decided to check out some more days to see what I can look forward to. I like June 18 because it is National Splurge Day or June 21, National Wandering Day. I am very good at splurging and wandering. It is cold where I live and Dec. 3 is one day I am going to celebrate, it is National Roof-Over-Your-Head Day.

If you can’t find a day you like to celebrate, then make one up and shout it the world and let others celebrate with you.

I think I will declare Dec. 26, Hermiony Vidalia Criony Fiddlestadt Day. She is my character in my Fuchsia, Minnesota Series, and I think she should have her own day. Why Dec. 26? It is a special day for her. I can’t tell you why — it’s a secret until my new book, “Granny Snows a Sneak,” coming out this month, gives it away.

Find a day to celebrate. Share that day with others and remember the turkey. He gives his life for us this month.

“You’ve to celebrate the good days because there are brutal days that make the good ones sweet.” — Brian O’Driscoll